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Making them happy.
 

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"People who know how to keep happy know how to make happy " - R. J. Pitie
 
 Jerry Pitie, Caressness Magazine

 

In many ways of calculated bliss, kids are practical part of each parent's pleasure. It is true that all parents enjoy the notion of seeing their kids blossom into triumphant, beautiful, glowing individuals amongst a group of peers. Kids, in congruency to their parents' childhood stages, do engage in harmony - and otherwise - with other kids. It is moments like these where some of the parents are hard-forgiving while others are easy-forgiving at a thought of child errs. As a result, kids become alienated towards their parents; and parents also do, at a glance of spousal approval or disapproval of them upon their kids. Many of unhappy families constitute unhappy children, who also grow into unhappy parents later; and often children coming from these alienating families trip the most in many areas of participation or activities than those from 'happy-mood-family' backgrounds. And again, some of these kids just don't find it fitting to partake, even in areas of their highest prowess. When many kids gather with overwhelm lithe in public playgrounds, some of the few isolate themselves from the rest of the stock and wait in transparency for the 'happy-mood-kids' to finish and leave before they themselves could engage into their games. Or else, they'd rather choose games that 'happy-mood-kids' don't play the most. Surely, no parent would rejoice at witnessing their kids in such a trance. The following tips can help us create a happy-mood surroundings for our kids:

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1.  Believe in them  
According to research, children can be encouraged into being successful individuals even when they themselves believe that they can't cut crest; and nobody would make a child heroic than a believing biological-parent. Even after countless fails, parents should still maintain their faith in their kids better than anybody else could. Remember that loosing builds character - haven't you heard this before? So, implant faith in your kids. It gives them hope in another impediment's try.(Remember that this child is an heir of your genes - thereby, judging him/her constitutes a retrospect meaning.)

2.  Instill Positivity  
Cultivate positive words in their hearts and minds. Remember to tell your child that: 'it is not for me that you do this but you do it for yourself, honey. However, I would be celebrating and rejoicing when that would make you smile and happy after your proud heroic outcome'. Tell your child not to try harder but do the best that they got; and, explain exactly - in good humourous words - what you mean by that. You can't instill positivity by yelling at your child. Thereby, start practising polite and smooth talking your child (speak truthfully, though) i.e. promise them that ice-cream flavour they've been dying to put hands on last summer - if need be. There can't be any harm in selling an idea even if it means to your child, after all. It also puts a child in environment of problem resolutes.

3.  Have a good mood  
Parents need to know that their happy moods or feelings subsequent kids into blissful angels. As I always turn to tell many in my child welfare engagements that: 'People who know how to keep happy really know how to make happy'. Punitive measures have always been proven to be a tense angle in many peremieters of parenting endeavours. Study has shown that parents who use punitive parenting practices may inadvertently deny their children the opportunity to learn the very skills and knowledge they require to improve their grades, from the article (If you want your child to bring home better grades, stop yelling and try this) by Psypost.

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4.  Know kiddies stories  
Children love tales. Oh! Yes, Everybody loves infiltrating stories and children are no exception. Telling tales in an entertaining manner brightens up kids' attentions and emotions. So, involve them in your story line to make them feel like they are in the towing line. If you don't know stories - as you don't turn to read much - then, create you own stories when around them. They don't have to be sensible stories but they just need to have connections because children are easy-listening chaps, irrespective of what you say. However, what you need to do is make sure that your stories are child-friendly.

5.  Open up!  
First, parents need to release all their angers collected in the past or while growing up. It's a thing of the past and your child has nothing to do with it. Even if you found/concieved your child during your youth, that child has nothing absolutely to do with your unhappy upbringing or past flaws. Bare in mind that your child doesn't live for you but you live for your child. In simple words, your child is not responsible for your happiness but you are responsible for your child's happy living - at some point. Be engaging and tell a truth about another parent's unavailability in this child's life, when need be. Don't curse, loath, rebuke, liken or apprehend your child with mistakes of a stray partner or of that missing-insignificant biological other.

6.  Play games children love to play
Learn which games does your child like the most. If you don't know the games - as techno trends change with times and genres - then learn it/them, to the least. And when playing, oh! please! just let a child win, for Heaven's sake. But, make sure you create a technical win so as for a child to learn that they can scoop awards/win. If it's technical, it helps them learn while playing to earn things than just getting things and helps thier thinking metabolism. By so doing you implant a culture of championship in a child. Otherwise, the opposite will susequent a child into learning that they can't be nothing and can't win a thing. When things don't turn to work out for him/her, he/she will remember nostalgic days of game playing with daddy or mommy and end up wanting to get back to that position of champions and winners or else. Remember that you are not just playing the game but you are training your child's brain ability and methodology. Thus, a child must always know that he/she has won and don't argue with him/her in this case. Ofcourse, it is their way of growing to keep reminding you and others that he/she beat you to a game of 'blaa-blaa', even when you are not up for another game. Don't spoil the mood by arguing that you gave it away. No! Just praise him/her and tell him/her that next coming game you are going to whoop him/her to the scoop of that vanilla-latte.


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